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Books Review and Summary 


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Attaching in Adoption Practical Tools for Today's Parents by 
Deborah D.Gray
Jessica Kingsley Publishers London and Philadelphia

​This book is a great resource, presenting the information in a practical and simple way to the reader, including graphics, simple reading, stories and testimonies that facilitate the understanding of the subject.
Author Deborah D. Gray uses a variety of professional resources, such as adoption agencies, medical research institutions and mental health specialists, educational institutions, and real-life families experiencing RAD conditions. All this set of resources make your information reliable and realistic.
The issues she addresses are aimed at informing what attachment disorder is in children, and how adoptive parents address it and recommendations on how they can help their children who suffer from this condition.
One of the stories that impacted me is found in Chapter 2, where a 12-year-old girl would finally be adopted, but her thoughts of disbelief toward acceptance, thoughts of losing their mothers, and poor self-perception breaks my heart. Knowing that this is a story of many who have not yet received the love of a family, the necessary help, care for their wounds, and particularly that there may be many more stories-lives that will not even be known by each of us. But for God's sake.
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When Love is Not Enough by Nancy Thomas
Published by Thomas, updated and expanded 2005

Has its subtitle says is a guide for parents of children who suffer from  reactive attachment disorder and also the author of this book is a Therapeutic Parenting Specialist, so she is an expert in situations that are generated around this condition.
Personally I consider it an accessible resource for parents, educators, and religious ministers, as it is divided into two easy parts to read, and understand.
The first part of the  book  is information  about reactive attachment disorder, signs, symptoms, etc. The second part of the book presents a series of "Solutions" - The dynamics of twelve techniques for parents.
Although these techniques are and most of them should be prescribed by mental health specialists, but  it helps us understand what is convenient for one age and another, the places where the technique can be applied, etc.
But I am particularly struck by the fact that at the end of chapter 7, she marks a box marking "the power of  prayer in parenting," and then begins by commenting that the time spent kneeling praying is one of the most powerful interventions that She has found. These words remind me of several passages from the Bible,  that speak of the power of prayer, like the passage in Matthew 17:21; James 5: 13-18; Thessalonians 5:16, but on one of my father's favorite verses Psalms 34: 6 ... This poor man called, and the LORD heard him; he saved him out of all his troubles...

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more books recommended...

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These two books as well as the others were of great help to understand what important is be informed.  Particularly the Connecting Child by Karyn B. Purvis, published by McGrawHil, because it handles the information from a compassionate, kind but very professional persectiva, develops the subjects with more depth in details that are relevant for restoration in the measure that this Reactive Attachment Disorder is possible.
As mentioned in chapter #1 Hope and Healing, these two concepts in my opinion are the pillar of this great book.
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